When couples come to me for help they are usually either seeking to regain lost intimacy and joy in the relationship, or wanting to gain clarity on whether to continue in the relationship. Frequently there is a a build-up of resentment and defenses due to past hurts, and they have been unsuccessful on their own in bridging the divide that has developed as a result. But somewhere inside, they know that there is nothing more powerful than the energy that comes from a strong and loving relationship, and they want to experience that once again.
One of my goals in my work with couples is to create a safe space where they can be vulnerable and feel protected. In addition, I bring a sense of fairness to my approach, so that neither member of the couple feels I am “taking sides”, and I call on each person to take responsibility for their participation in the conflict. My approach to couples therapy combines the practical (developing tools for improved communication and conflict resolution), with the “softer skills” of increasing the capacity for empathy and trust. I work with both Heterosexual and Gay/Lesbian couples.
I work successfully with couples in the following areas:
- Clarifying whether to continue the relationship
- Improving communication skills
- Developing greater intimacy ( both emotional and physical)
- Working together to handle challenges that accompany life (parenting, job changes, death of a parent, betrayal or loss of trust)
- Pre-marital counseling
- Co-parenting following separation or divorce
And now you are and I am and we’re a mystery which will never happen again.
– E.E. Cummings